How to Turn a Girl On: The 8 Best Effective Ways

It's foreplay, and trust me if there is one thing that has the power to make her go wild for you, it will be this leading up towards an “amazing sex”. This is the magic ingredient that transforms fine dining into a culinary masterpiece. Foreplay done in the right way would only build anticipation and desire like nothing else. And guess who else is all about her pleasure? We do. Head over to www.atog.in and start listening to stories of couples and women exploring their desires—for free!

The key to unlocking her sexual arousal lies in these techniques. Plus, watching her pleasure turn you on even more is a game-changer. Once she starts experiencing those incredible orgasms, she’ll crave you like never before. In toto, you will be a part of her sexual desire. So, get ready to take notes because here are eight fun and effective ways of intimacy that turn her on before things get hot and heavy.

So here we go! 

1. Playing with the Clit with a tap, pinch, or circle 

After you are done exploring other erogenous zones of her body, you have to get her to the edge. Playing with the clit can surely make this hotter and wetter. One effective technique is what some call the “Tap Dance.” A gentle tapping motion on her clit and hood can slowly build up to an orgasm. Speed it up as you wish, depending on her responses. Another method is the “Peace Pinch.” Use your first two fingers like a peace sign to softly pinch her clitoral hood and gently tug up and down, or slide your fingers in a back-and-forth motion. Lastly, try the “Orbit the Planet” technique. Use a finger to trace slow circles around her clit and hood, touching her labia in the process.
 

If you hear moaning and her legs cringing, loud and clear, you’re on the right track. Keep going, be consistent, and keep her on cloud nine. As the renowned sex educator Dr. Emily Nagoski and writer explains in her book Come as You Are, "Pleasure is the measure. Pay attention to the details, you will know what makes her feel good, and let that guide your every move."

2. Use your fingers down below 

Gently touch her outer labia, taking your time to move inward. This slow build-up is like teasing her with a surprise gift—she’ll be begging to know what’s next. Use different fingers to gently massage and experiment with varying pressures around her vaginal opening. It’s all about discovering what makes her tick. For an extra touch of pleasure, curl your fingers upwards to find that hidden treasure inside her. As sex educator Dr. Laurie Mintz notes in her book Becoming Cliterate, finding and stimulating this spot can lead to heightened arousal and intense pleasure. By being patient and attentive, you'll ensure an experience that leaves her seeing stars and craving more.

3. Cunnilingus

Make sure you both are comfortable and absolutely relaxed, more her then you! A stress-free setting is for great intimacy. Approach slowly, don't dive in straight! Use your tongue on the inner thighs! And then slowly go down to explore her clitoris—lick, flick, and circle it while mixing in some gentle sucking for added pleasure. Try a different speed and pressure, respond to her reactions, and ask her to use her hand to guide you to the right spots. Stay calm and allow open communication, it is essential; to listen to her moans and whispers and respond accordingly. As famous Dr. Alfred Kinsey noted, “The only unnatural sexual act is that which you cannot perform.”, so bow down to the kitty!  For those, who are stuck in their head about the taste, smell, and more try some edible underwear. 

4. Caressing the Inner Thighs with a play of air Air

Her inner thighs are incredibly sensitive and can be a hotspot for building arousal when you make love. Start by kissing and lightly stroking these areas to get her in the mood, this will surely turn on a girl aka arouse her. Then, gently blow cool air on the spots you’ve kissed. This contrast between warmth and coolness can heighten her sensations. Gradually move closer to her vulva, teasing her as you go. This slow approach, much like simmering a pot, will have her boiling over with anticipation. Dr. Beverly Whipple, co-author of The Science of Orgasm, explains that such sensory play can significantly enhance sexual pleasure and anticipation. 

5. Sandwiching

One more underrated way to arouse her is Sandwiching the clit. To try sandwiching, place two fingers on either side of her clitoris and gently squeeze. This technique turns her clit into the delicious filling of a sexy sandwich. Keep increasing & decreasing the pressure, adjusting speed according to her responses. Like you squeeze and release, then squeeze and release, keep trying new intensity but keep it gentle. Dr. Emily Morse, famous podcaster and host of the "Sex With Emily", often reminds the listener “Communication and experimentation are the keys to great sex.” 

6. Toys in the Bedroom

Introduce some excitement by bringing fun toys like vibrators or dildos into the bedroom. Choose ones that both of you are comfortable with, as these gadgets can greatly enhance arousal. Discuss boundaries and preferences beforehand to avoid any unwelcome surprises. Use toys to complement your manual and oral skills. Mixing things up keeps the excitement high and her pleasure soaring. According to sexologist Dr. Jessica O’Reilly and other people who have used toys in the bedroom “Toys can add a new dimension to your sexual experience, enhancing pleasure and intimacy.”

7. Praise Kink

Offering genuine praise can be a major turn-on. Compliment her on how amazing she looks and how she makes you feel. Verbal encouragement during intimate moments can heighten the experience. Let her know she’s driving you wild in the best way possible. Pair your praise with physical affection to deepen your connection and make the moment even more special. Dr. David Schnarch, in *Passionate Marriage*, states that “Verbal affirmation can significantly enhance intimacy and sexual satisfaction.” Being sincere and affectionate will create a deeply intimate and pleasurable experience.

8. Rubbing Embrace (Unmilitak)

Rubbing your bodies together can create a thrilling friction that boosts arousal. Focus on areas like her thighs and hips, pressing them against each other to build sexual tension. Alternate between gentle and firm pressure to keep things exciting and discover what feels best. Sex therapist Esther Perel notes that “Eroticism thrives in the space between desire and fulfillment.” By keeping things playful and attentive, you'll heighten anticipation and enjoyment for both of you. 

So there you have it, guys! Eight playful and effective ways to tease, and turn her on before sex Don't forget that foreplay is not just about what goes on before sex, but is an art form that can benefit both you and him the whole time. Making it all about her pleasure both feels amazing for her and gets you even more turned on. The secret: being present, open, and attuning to the awareness of your woman. Over time, as you experiment with these tactics determine the right match suitable for your unique bond so that it can enrich and be in memory of all those intimate moments. Love foreplay for what it is — the magic that can elevate your sexual experience to new heights. Happy exploring!